A Month of Reflection and Connection: Tisha B’Av and Tu B’Av

August is a month that holds deep spiritual meaning in the Jewish calendar, bringing both solemn remembrance and joyful celebration. From the mourning of Tisha B’Av to the love and renewal of Tu B’Av, this month invites us to reflect, connect, and find meaning in tradition.

Tisha B’Av – A Time of Mourning and Reflection (August 2–3, 2025)

Beginning at sunset on August 2nd and ending at nightfall on August 3rd, Tisha B’Av is the most solemn day in the Jewish year. It commemorates the destruction of the First and Second Temples in Jerusalem, as well as other calamities that have occurred throughout Jewish history.

The day is marked by fasting, prayer, and a number of mourning customs. Leather shoes are avoided, washing is limited to hygienic needs, and we sit on low stools or the floor as a sign of grief. Jewellery is set aside, and the haunting verses of Megillat Eicha (the Book of Lamentations) are read aloud in a subdued tone. Some visit cemeteries to deepen the sense of connection with past generations.

In the lead-up to Tisha B’Av, many refrain from eating meat, listening to music, or engaging in joyful activities during the Nine Days of Av. These traditions serve as a collective expression of historical memory and spiritual introspection.

Yet even in mourning, there is hope. Charitable actions are encouraged, reminding us that from sadness can come kindness and community responsibility.

Tu B’Av – A Celebration of Love and Renewal (August 9, 2025)

Just a few days later, on August 9th, the mood shifts dramatically with Tu B’Av, the 15th of Av. Sometimes called the Jewish Valentine’s Day, Tu B’Av is a celebration of love, joy, and human connection. Historically, it was a day when unmarried women would dress in white and dance in the fields, hoping to find a partner.

Today, the holiday continues to be a favourite for weddings, proposals, and meaningful gestures of love.

Whether you’re in a relationship, seeking one, or simply appreciating those around you, Tu B’Av is a beautiful reminder to express affection and care.

Here are a few ideas to mark the day:

• Send flowers or a small gift to someone special

• Plan a romantic outing or meaningful date

• Write a heartfelt note or poem

• Join a community celebration with music and dancing

• Engage in acts of kindness, or take time for self-care and reflection

From private expressions of love to joyful communal gatherings, Tu B’Av encourages us to build relationships, celebrate connection, and find light even after darkness.

This month, as we move from sorrow to joy, may we carry forward the lessons of both Tisha B’Av and Tu B’Av—honouring the past while embracing the beauty of love, unity, and renewal.

Images by Sefira Lightstone

(Images by Sefira Lightstone)